Friends and Tightropes
Do your friends help you navigate lifes tightropes?
Saturday night I wobbled, shook, and careened across a real tightrope.
A friend of mine had it installed a couple feet off the floor of her writing studio.
She practices walking across it for both physical and mental balance.
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- She also runs a magazine about whales
- writes prolifically
- runs mastermind groups
- has lost more than 50lbs.
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Her boyfriend is amazing too. Here’s a guy who once weighed more than 300lbs…lost all of it…got in shape…ran a marathon a few times… and now is training to sprint a 5:30 mile in a track meet this January. wow. He just keeps updating his goals and moving forward. Like crossing them off a list.
I’m writing to you about this because I just took a mental inventory of all my friends.
Very good to do.
Why?
Well… turns out they all are striving for a fulfilled life. All of them have goals. And all believe in their own power.
None of them are quite like anybody else I have ever met. All unique. All interesting.
It’s a success secret taught by the greatest thinkers and doers:
Surround yourself with successful people.
To do so inspires us to live from our own highest selves. And then you can inspire others too.
I can honestly say I feel blessed to have such interesting and amazing friends.
But it wasn’t always this way for me.
Once upon a time I had “friends” that were slowly becoming less happy, less fulfilled, negative and angry.
Looking back, I felt the same way. Unhappy. Bored. Unproductive.
Misery loves company. And I was their “company” as much as they were mine.
One day I decided I just wasn’t willing to live an unhappy, unfulfilled life. And I wasn’t going to encourage them to do so either.
So I had to say adiós.
From then on, everything changed for the better. I changed my “Inner Universe” and the outer one changed instantly.
It was instant life upgrade.
I looked for and began to magically find more fulfilling relationships — and I became a positive catalyst for others too.
I urge you to examine your friendships from a “good for me” or “bad for me” perspective. Discover whether they are growth oriented.
Are they healthy relationships?
Do you feel good around your friends? Do they inspire you to aim high? Do you inspire them?
Life is too short to waste time being part of a cadre of negative people.
Why not choose your friends based on your own core values? Why not seek friends who encourage, support, and inspire? Why not enjoy friendships that make you feel good?
You will be so glad you did.
My personal development was stunted, in part, by the company I kept in my former life.
But no longer. I refuse to move backwards.
Are negative people a roadblock for you? If so…give yourself permission to shine.
By giving your self permission to shine, you’ll automatically give other people permission to shine too.
Even the “friends” you may feel you’ve left behind.
Cheers,
D
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Relationships, attitude, mental powers, success tips | Daniel | 
November 3, 2008 11:18 pm
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By pnkrkgrl, November 3, 2008 @ 11:25 pm
I love your statement about allowing yourself to shine. So many times in life we are knocked down by others BECAUSE we shine too bright. “What makes you think you’re so special?” “Who do you think YOU are?” By freeing yourself from the mental trap of others’ perceptions, you allow yourself to be…well, you! Hurray for the power of you! Shine on you crazy diamonds!
By FlashGorda, February 22, 2009 @ 12:30 am
Surrounding myself with inspiring people and good food is changing my life. It will change yours too. Your best bet is to join Daniel’s class. I have been embraced by enthusiastic souls with my best interest at heart. Also, I’ve met the most interesting people at hot springs. It sounds strange but if you are looking for a positive experience with happy people try it. I bet you will meet someone who is uplifting and aware of good health. This is my favorite tactic because I am kind of shy. I swim around and then a nice person always strikes up a conversation. Barriers melt away when people are gathered in healing water. Wishing you good vibes and health!